Thursday, February 19, 2009


Lately I've not had time for blogging or reading my favorite blogs and keeping up with blogging friends or even going out to shoot photos. My shoulders are practically wrapped around my ears, they're so tense and knotted. My calendar is filled with obligations. I dread the ringing phone. A frantic life isn't my cup of tea, so how did I get here?

A weakness of mine is the inability to say "no." I'm working on it, but I think it's a leftover from my childhood, not wanting to disappoint anyone. Being helpful is something that I enjoy, however I enjoy it to a fault. Taking care of family and friends and being productive fills my world with joy, but I tend to overdo it. Like now.

Time to say "yes" to ME, and put myself, my health, my passions, my energies First And Foremost. Intellectually I've known this, of course. Emotionally, I've had trouble wrapping my head around the concept of putting myself first. When I do I'm happy and well-adjusted, but then guilt begins creeping in - aha, a little epiphany.

Clearly, this is The Year to focus on a journey toward being true to myself.

I would love to hear of your own personal journeys, and tips on how you balance everything.


Anonymous said...

Debi, bravo for realizing you need to create space or balance in your life. I'm doing exactly that and today's post reflects or rather announces the primary change. I'm going from mouse-potato to life-spud (explained in my post). I think it's too easy to avoid saying "no" whether to ourselves or others, I agree. I also think the Internet can be overdone. Yes, there are some wonderful people out there and some write lovely blogs such as yours ... but there comes a time to step back and take in life and to immerse ourselves in what really matters and means the most. I'm doing just that. I hope you too will find your balance or the strength to create room for yourself and your own creativity.

With warmth and understanding,

inadvertent farmer said...

Good for you and your soul...we all need to be true to the passions God has planted in us.

After losing my twin daughters and then my dad I came to the realization that although of course there are the daily chores there is also an equal need for those things that give us joy and peace. We must grab onto life with both hands because we truly do know what tomorrow brings. Good luck in your journey. Kim

Anonymous said...

This is something I struggle with daily, and for what it's worth, I am the Queen of Guilt. I am a nurturer by nature, and I have a very hard time saying NO as well, though I've become better in the past couple of years. :) I'm glad you're taking time for and care of YOU.

Deedee said...

Yes, It's very important to say "no", this I have learned. Take care of yourself first, then you will be better able to care for others. I'm so happy for your mom, and or Dakota Valentine! He is completely adorable. I know they will be happy together. Glad to have found your blog!


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